Venus Conjunct Mars: Liking and Wanting Burn as One Flame

With Venus and Mars traveling together, liking someone and wanting to get close happen almost at once. Your charm is direct and your feelings intense, and patience is not your strong suit. This page starts from what Venus governs (love, taste, values and money) and what Mars governs (drive, desire, competition and conflict), then looks at how the conjunction makes the two interact, how it tends to show up in everyday life, its strengths and blind spots, and some advice for it.

Venus Conjunct Mars at a glance

Percentages are our own calculation from 8,401 charts of people born in Taipei between 1960 and 2005 with random birth times, using the same orbs as our chart calculator.

The core meaning of Venus Conjunct Mars

Venus governs what you like, how you show affection, and what you find beautiful. Mars governs what you want and how you go after it. With the two together there is no distance between admiration and desire; the moment your heart stirs, your body wants to step forward. Your fondness for a person, an object, or a piece of work always carries heat, and you seldom just watch from afar. People often sense an attraction in you they cannot quite name. It comes from your affection and your actions always pointing the same way.

The hallmark of the conjunction is that the two cannot be separated. People with the square feel liking and desire pulling against each other. You rarely do, because you have always simply acted when your heart stirred and assumed everyone was like that. This directness gives you great vitality in love and in creative work. It also makes it hard to slow down and tell whether the strong feeling in front of you is real appreciation or a momentary spark. The sign the two planets occupy decides whether this heat shows openly or stays under wraps.

How it feels inside

Your preferences arrive fast and they are unmistakable. You see something you like, your heart responds at once, and then you want to have it, join in, get your hands on it. Waiting is hard on you. Liking someone and not being able to show it leaves you unable to sit still. You are usually somewhat aware of your own appeal and enjoy being noticed. What you think about less is what remains once the heat fades. That is a question people tend to start asking themselves only after several relationships.

In love and relationships

In love you take the initiative and do not hide much. If you like someone, they usually know soon, because you find chances to get near, ask them out, or test the waters with jokes and banter. You prize the spark between two people, and if time together comes down to plain routine, you feel something is missing. Your temper rises fast in an argument too. What you say in the heat of the moment can be harsh, though you make up just as quickly. With a partner who can handle your directness, the relationship stays full of life.

At work and in getting things done

At work you belong where preference turns into action. Design, performance, sales, food and hospitality, and sports all need someone with taste who is also willing to make a move, and that is your strength. On projects you love, your drive is tremendous and colleagues get swept up in your enthusiasm. Watch out for your motivation dropping the moment interest fades. And in teamwork your likes and dislikes show so plainly that a proposal you do not care for may not get a fair hearing.

Strengths

• Direct charm: Affection and action move together. You show what you like and leave no one guessing, and that candor is attractive in itself and moves things along quickly.
• Contagious enthusiasm: When you throw yourself into something, you light up, and people nearby catch it. On a team, you are often the one who warms up the room.
• Creative vitality: Your sense of beauty and your drive are bound together. You think of something and start making it, so your work has personal warmth and does not stop at the idea.

Blind spots

• Impatient: Once your heart stirs you want results now. Waiting and ambiguity make you anxious, and you may be deeply invested before you have seen clearly.
• Heat that is hard to sustain: What runs on sparks loses steam when the sparks fade. Both love and hobbies can begin intensely and then cool off.
• Likes and dislikes with a temper: When you do not like something, your reaction is just as direct and your tone turns sharp. The people closest to you usually take it first.

Advice for Venus Conjunct Mars

Give your heat an observation period. When you meet someone who thrills you, or something you badly want to buy or do, make yourself wait a few days and see whether the feeling is still there. What remains is usually worth committing to. Once a relationship is steady, take the lead in planning new things to do together, like learning a sport or going somewhere neither of you has been. The spark you need can be cultivated. You do not have to change partners to get it.

What to keep in mind when reading this aspect

1. The tighter the orb, the more it matters. In our calculations, only 13.6% of all major aspects are within 1° of exact, and 41.2% are within 3°. If your Venus conjunct Mars is tight, the traits on this page will be more noticeable; if it is close to the 8° limit, they will be much fainter.

2. Applying and separating. An aspect is applying when the two planets are moving toward the exact angle and separating once they have passed it. Tradition holds that an applying aspect is still taking shape and acts more strongly. Our chart calculator marks which one you have.

3. Watch for out-of-sign aspects. Two planets in conjunction are usually in the same sign, but an aspect is measured by actual distance. In our calculations, 15.6% of conjunctions do not match the usual sign relationship (one planet late in a sign, the other early in another). The nature of the aspect is still there; it just shows up in a less typical way.

4. Most people born on the same day share this aspect. Venus and Mars move only a little in a day. The difference lies in which houses they fall in on your chart, and that depends on your birth time; see Planets in the Houses.

5. Then look at each planet’s own placement. The signs Venus and Mars are in decide how each one expresses itself; see Planets in the Signs. If either planet has other aspects, read them together. For a complete reading, use the In-Depth Chart Reading.

Other aspects between Venus and Mars

Conjunction · Sextile · Square · Trine · Opposition

The conjunction with other planets

Venus: Sun conjunct Venus, Moon conjunct Venus, Mercury conjunct Venus, Venus conjunct Jupiter, Venus conjunct Saturn, Venus conjunct Uranus, Venus conjunct Neptune, Venus conjunct Pluto.

Mars: Sun conjunct Mars, Moon conjunct Mars, Mercury conjunct Mars, Mars conjunct Jupiter, Mars conjunct Saturn, Mars conjunct Uranus, Mars conjunct Neptune, Mars conjunct Pluto.

All Venus aspects · All Mars aspects · Planet aspects overview