Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace: Who You Fall For, and Where You Get Stuck

With Tian Tong in your Spouse Palace, you are drawn to gentle, easygoing people who know how to enjoy life. Your partner is usually relaxed and tuned in to feelings, and being with them is restful.

Your pattern in love

Tian Tong is a star of blessings, and in the Spouse Palace it usually points to a harmonious relationship; classical texts also say Tian Tong here brings “harmony between spouses.” Its lesson is avoiding conflict: you both tend to leave problems sitting, and over time they harden into grudges.

You and your partner: the Life and Spouse Palaces

When Tian Tong is in your Spouse Palace, the Life Palace always holds Tai Yang. You are outgoing, giving and career-minded, while your partner is gentle and cares about quality of life; one of you charges ahead out in the world and the other makes home a place to unwind, a very natural pairing.

This is built into the chart: counting two palaces forward from Tian Tong always lands on Tai Yang, and the Life Palace always sits two palaces forward from the Spouse Palace, so anyone with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace has Tai Yang in the Life Palace (either alone or together with Ju Men, Tian Liang and Tai Yin). Further reading: Tai Yang in the Life Palace.

Bright and fallen positions

When Tian Tong is bright, your partner is gentle, considerate and fortunate, and the home feels warm. When it is fallen or poorly placed, your partner tends to bottle things up, so the relationship looks peaceful on the surface while hurt builds underneath. Brightness by branch, from the table of the Complete Book this site uses: Exalted: Si, Hai; Strong: Zi, Shen; Fair: Yin; Neutral: Mao, Chen, You, Xu; Weak: Chou, Wei; Fallen: Wu.

The Spouse Palace's four-way set is the Career Palace (opposite), the Travel Palace and the Mind Palace: love and work pull on each other, and both are tied to how you come across in the world and how content you feel inside. The table shows the major stars of these palaces, and of your Life Palace, for each of the twelve branches Tian Tong can occupy in the Spouse Palace.

"Empty palace" means the palace has none of the fourteen major stars; in that case you read it through the stars of the opposite palace.

The six combinations

Tian Tong with Tai Yin (Zi or Wu)

Zi: Tian Tong strong, Tai Yin exalted; Wu: Tian Tong fallen, Tai Yin weak. Opposite (Career): empty palace; Life: Tai Yang and Ju Men. About 15.6% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is gentle, romantic and tuned in to feelings, a very sweet pairing. In Zi both stars are well placed and love is tender and harmonious; in Wu both are poorly placed, feelings are easily suppressed, and more needs to be said out loud. Further reading: Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace.

Tian Tong with Ju Men (Chou or Wei)

Chou: Tian Tong weak, Ju Men weak; Wei: Tian Tong weak, Ju Men weak. Opposite (Career): empty palace; Life: Tai Yang and Tian Liang. About 15.1% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is sensitive and has a lot on their mind that does not always get said, so the relationship often carries hurt that is hard to name. You both need to be understood, and saying what you need directly works better than guessing. Further reading: Ju Men in the Spouse Palace.

Tian Tong with Tian Liang (Yin or Shen)

Yin: Tian Tong fair, Tian Liang exalted; Shen: Tian Tong strong, Tian Liang fallen. Opposite (Career): empty palace; Life: Tai Yang. About 16.7% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is gentle, empathetic and caring, and the relationship is harmonious with few fights. The lesson is that you are both too comfortable, so problems tend to be put off rather than dealt with. Further reading: Tian Liang in the Spouse Palace.

Tian Tong alone, facing Tai Yin (Mao or You)

Mao: Tian Tong neutral; You: Tian Tong neutral. Opposite (Career): Tai Yin; Life: Tai Yang. About 17.3% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is mild and goes with the flow. With Tai Yin opposite in the Career Palace, your work is careful and steady. With the Spouse Palace in Mao, the opposite Tai Yin is bright and both love and career are steady; in You the opposite Tai Yin is fallen and moods run lower.

Tian Tong alone, facing Ju Men (Chen or Xu)

Chen: Tian Tong neutral; Xu: Tian Tong neutral. Opposite (Career): Ju Men; Life: Tai Yang. About 17.3% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner wants peace and security. With Ju Men opposite in the Career Palace, your work involves plenty of disputes and pressure, and you can easily bring that mood home.

Tian Tong alone, facing Tian Liang (Si or Hai)

Si: Tian Tong exalted; Hai: Tian Tong exalted. Opposite (Career): Tian Liang; Life: Tai Yang and Tai Yin. About 18.1% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is gentle, fortunate and well liked. With Tian Liang opposite in the Career Palace, your work is stable and you get on well with elders. Tian Tong is bright in Si and Hai, one of the most harmonious Spouse Palace placements.

Birth-year transformations in the Spouse Palace

• Tian Tong with Hua Lu (born in a Bing year): For people born in a Bing year, Tian Tong with Hua Lu sits in the Spouse Palace: your partner is fortunate and easy to be with, and the relationship is sweet. In our sample, about 8.1% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Lu.
• Tian Tong with Hua Quan (born in a Ding year): For people born in a Ding year, Tian Tong with Hua Quan sits in the Spouse Palace: your gentle partner gains a firmer will, and the pace of the relationship is often set by them. In our sample, about 8.4% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Quan.
• Tian Tong with Hua Ji (born in a Geng year): For people born in a Geng year, Tian Tong with Hua Ji sits in the Spouse Palace: you care a great deal about how comfortable the relationship feels, and any friction leaves you feeling hard done by; do not keep it to yourself. In our sample, about 12.4% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Ji.

A man's chart and a woman's chart

In a man's chart: Classical texts say that for a man, Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace means a wife who is “gentle and blessed.” The modern reading: your partner is mild and values everyday life, the person who lets the home relax; look after their feelings in return.

In a woman's chart: Classical texts say that for a woman, Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace means a husband who is “mild, ideally older.” The modern reading: you admire gentle partners with a taste for the good things in life; watch for a tendency to run away when pressure builds.

The classical texts read the Spouse Palace as the wife in a man's chart and the husband in a woman's chart, reflecting the traditional view of marriage they were written in. Relationships today take many forms, so this site reads the Spouse Palace as your pattern in close relationships, whatever your gender and whatever shape the relationship takes.

Getting along

Deal with small things while they are small; do not let them pile up. The biggest risk for a Tian Tong relationship is becoming peaceful but distant.

About 41.9% of charts with Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace also have at least one of the six Sha stars in that palace, about the same as the 42.0% across all charts. Malefic stars in the Spouse Palace usually show up as high expectations of love and a need to work things through; they do not mean the relationship is bad.

What our sample shows

How we counted: this site’s engine cast one Zi Wei chart for every day from 1960 to 2005 (birth hour drawn by a fixed-seed random sample), 16,802 charts in all. These figures describe how chart structures are distributed; they do not measure anyone’s love life.

Other major stars in the Spouse Palace