Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace: Who You Fall For, and Where You Get Stuck

With Tai Yin in your Spouse Palace, you are drawn to gentle, sensitive people who are tuned in to feelings. Your partner is usually reserved, has an eye for beauty, is family-minded and cares about the quality and mood of daily life.

Your pattern in love

Tai Yin is the Moon, and in the Spouse Palace love flows quietly and lasts, built on companionship and understanding. When Tai Yin is bright the relationship is gentle and steady; when it is fallen your partner tends to wear themselves out inside, and you may feel they carry a lot they do not share.

You and your partner: the Life and Spouse Palaces

When Tai Yin is in your Spouse Palace, the Life Palace always holds Ju Men. You are articulate and see deep into things, sometimes with a critical edge, while your partner is gentle and sensitive; they will carry one remark of yours for a long time, so remember to soften how you say things.

This is built into the chart: counting two palaces forward from Tai Yin always lands on Ju Men, and the Life Palace always sits two palaces forward from the Spouse Palace, so anyone with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace has Ju Men in the Life Palace (either alone or together with Tai Yang, Tian Ji and Tian Tong). Further reading: Ju Men in the Life Palace.

Bright and fallen positions

When Tai Yin is bright, your partner is gentle, considerate and good with money, a wonderful companion for everyday life. When it is fallen, your partner is sensitive and prone to worry and keeps feelings pressed down, so they need more patience and more initiative from you. Brightness by branch, from the table of the Complete Book this site uses: Exalted: Zi, Chou, Hai; Strong: Yin, You, Xu; Fair: Shen; Weak: Wu, Wei; Fallen: Mao, Chen, Si.

The Spouse Palace's four-way set is the Career Palace (opposite), the Travel Palace and the Mind Palace: love and work pull on each other, and both are tied to how you come across in the world and how content you feel inside. The table shows the major stars of these palaces, and of your Life Palace, for each of the twelve branches Tai Yin can occupy in the Spouse Palace.

"Empty palace" means the palace has none of the fourteen major stars; in that case you read it through the stars of the opposite palace.

The six combinations

Tian Tong with Tai Yin (Zi or Wu)

Zi: Tai Yin exalted, Tian Tong strong; Wu: Tai Yin weak, Tian Tong fallen. Opposite (Career): empty palace; Life: Tai Yang and Ju Men. About 14.9% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is gentle, romantic and tuned in to feelings, a very sweet pairing. In Zi both stars are well placed and love is tender and harmonious; in Wu both are poorly placed, feelings are easily suppressed, and more needs to be said out loud. Further reading: Tian Tong in the Spouse Palace.

Tai Yang with Tai Yin (Chou or Wei)

Chou: Tai Yin exalted, Tai Yang weak; Wei: Tai Yin weak, Tai Yang favorable. Opposite (Career): empty palace; Life: Tian Ji and Ju Men. About 19.3% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

With the Sun and Moon together, your partner has both an outgoing and a reserved side, and their moods swing more. The relationship runs hot and cold, and both of you need to learn to read each other’s rhythm. Further reading: Tai Yang in the Spouse Palace.

Tian Ji with Tai Yin (Yin or Shen)

Yin: Tai Yin strong, Tian Ji favorable; Shen: Tai Yin fair, Tian Ji favorable. Opposite (Career): empty palace; Life: Ju Men. About 16.7% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is sensitive, clever and emotionally rich, and love is romantic but delicate. This pairing brings a lot of change, and couples often move house or change surroundings together; staying in regular touch steadies the relationship more than promises do. Further reading: Tian Ji in the Spouse Palace.

Tai Yin alone, facing Tian Tong (Mao or You)

Mao: Tai Yin fallen; You: Tai Yin strong. Opposite (Career): Tian Tong; Life: Ju Men. About 18.1% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is gentle with an eye for beauty. With Tian Tong opposite in the Career Palace, your work moves at a steady pace. In You, Tai Yin is bright and love flows quietly and lasts; in Mao it is fallen and your partner tires more easily.

Tai Yin alone, facing Tai Yang (Chen or Xu)

Chen: Tai Yin fallen; Xu: Tai Yin strong. Opposite (Career): Tai Yang; Life: Ju Men. About 15.7% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is reserved and family-minded. With Tai Yang opposite in the Career Palace, your work is outward-facing and reputation-driven. Tai Yin is bright in Xu and fallen in Chen; when bright, the relationship is gentle and steady.

Tai Yin alone, facing Tian Ji (Si or Hai)

Si: Tai Yin fallen; Hai: Tai Yin exalted. Opposite (Career): Tian Ji; Life: Tian Tong and Ju Men. About 15.3% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace fall into this group.

Your partner is sensitive and gentle. With Tian Ji opposite in the Career Palace, your work involves a lot of change and brainwork. In Hai, Tai Yin is bright and your partner is gentle and talented; in Si it is fallen and your partner carries more on their mind.

Birth-year transformations in the Spouse Palace

• Tai Yin with Hua Lu (born in a Ding year): For people born in a Ding year, Tai Yin with Hua Lu sits in the Spouse Palace: your partner is gentle and financially sound, and both the household finances and the relationship run smoothly. In our sample, about 7.5% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Lu.
• Tai Yin with Hua Quan (born in a Wu year): For people born in a Wu year, Tai Yin with Hua Quan sits in the Spouse Palace: your partner is sensitive but decisive, and the housework and finances are often in their hands. In our sample, about 10.6% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Quan.
• Tai Yin with Hua Ke (born in a Geng or Gui year): For people born in a Geng or Gui year, Tai Yin with Hua Ke sits in the Spouse Palace: your partner is graceful and talented, and the relationship is well regarded. In our sample, about 21.9% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Ke.
• Tai Yin with Hua Ji (born in a Yi year): For people born in a Yi year, Tai Yin with Hua Ji sits in the Spouse Palace: you are highly sensitive to your partner’s moods and easily unsettled when they seem cool; learn to check rather than guess. In our sample, about 10.8% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace carry the birth-year Hua Ji.

A man's chart and a woman's chart

In a man's chart: Classical texts say that for a man, Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace means a wife who is “beautiful and virtuous,” and they treat Tai Yin as the symbol of the wife. The modern reading: your partner is sensitive, family-minded and has an eye for beauty; when Tai Yin is fallen, pay more attention to their moods.

In a woman's chart: Classical texts say that for a woman, Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace means a husband who is “refined and mild.” The modern reading: you admire gentle, considerate partners with good taste in living; their love is quiet and long-lasting.

The classical texts read the Spouse Palace as the wife in a man's chart and the husband in a woman's chart, reflecting the traditional view of marriage they were written in. Relationships today take many forms, so this site reads the Spouse Palace as your pattern in close relationships, whatever your gender and whatever shape the relationship takes.

Getting along

Ask “How was your day?” one more time. A Tai Yin partner will not announce what they need, but they very much need to be asked.

About 41.5% of charts with Tai Yin in the Spouse Palace also have at least one of the six Sha stars in that palace, about the same as the 42.0% across all charts. Malefic stars in the Spouse Palace usually show up as high expectations of love and a need to work things through; they do not mean the relationship is bad.

What our sample shows

How we counted: this site’s engine cast one Zi Wei chart for every day from 1960 to 2005 (birth hour drawn by a fixed-seed random sample), 16,802 charts in all. These figures describe how chart structures are distributed; they do not measure anyone’s love life.

Other major stars in the Spouse Palace