Venus Square Pluto: Control and Insecurity Hidden in Love

With Venus and Pluto at odds, the more you care the more you fear losing. Love often brings jealousy, power struggles, and big swings, and it forces you to face your deepest insecurity. This page starts from what Venus governs (love, taste, values and money) and what Pluto governs (deep power, crisis and rebirth), then looks at how the square makes the two interact, how it tends to show up in everyday life, its strengths and blind spots, and some advice for it.

Venus Square Pluto at a glance

Percentages are our own calculation from 8,401 charts of people born in Taipei between 1960 and 2005 with random birth times, using the same orbs as our chart calculator.

The core meaning of Venus Square Pluto

Venus wants to be loved and to enjoy pleasant company. Pluto brings a dread of loss and an urge to have everything under control. The square has the two rubbing against each other, so the more you like someone, the louder the alarm rings inside. You may be giving yourself and guarding yourself at once, worried that one day they will leave or betray you, and unable to resist checking and keeping hold. Or it may run the other way: you meet someone who wants to control you, and though it clearly feels wrong you cannot leave.

People with the conjunction take intensity as the normal state of love and feel little contradiction. With the square you plainly feel the pain. You know some force is pulling you along, and for the moment you cannot stop. The pressure is heaviest when you are young, when entangled relationships that are hard to end come easily. It also forces you to look inward and work out where the insecurity comes from. People who have walked this road understand human nature deeply and are capable of a truly honest relationship.

How it feels inside

Deep down, you are not at ease about being loved. When you receive care, you wonder how long it will last. When you are ignored, an old wound is touched very quickly. Your sense of worth tends to rise and fall with your relationships too, powerful when you are chosen and sinking far when you are rejected. These feelings are strong enough to frighten even you at times. They mostly trace back to early experiences of being compared, being overlooked, or having to compete for love. Seeing where they come from is the first step in loosening them.

In love and relationships

In love you fall easily into relationships of very high intensity. The attraction at the start is nearly impossible to resist, and later there may be checking up, silent standoffs, and breaking up and getting back together, with both of you unwilling to let go and both of you hurt. You may also burn a long time in a love triangle or an unequal relationship. In a fight, you or your partner will use silence, old grievances, or money to gain the upper hand. When you can say “I’m afraid of losing you” as the insecurity rises, trading the tests for honesty, the cycle finally has a chance to stop.

At work and in getting things done

At work, this intensity can turn into remarkable focus and toughness. You are not afraid of difficult cases, and the more a situation scares others off, the steadier you hold. Crisis management, negotiation, investigation, financial restructuring, and psychological work can all use this capacity. Watch for entanglements over money and power. You may wrestle quietly with a business partner or a boss over how resources are divided, or spend money to fill an emotional hole. Open books and explicit rules will save you a great deal of inner wear and tear.

Strengths

• Unafraid of the dark: You have lived through the ugly side of love, so you do not dodge heavy subjects and can keep someone company through lows others will not go near.
• Very resilient: You fall hard and still get up. Every serious blow in love or money leaves you clearer about what truly matters to you.
• Insight into people: You are especially alert to motives and to shifts of power within a relationship. Surface politeness rarely fools you, and you read people accurately.

Blind spots

• Jealousy that won’t settle: The faintest stir makes you uneasy, and you cannot help checking or questioning. The other person feels mistrusted, and things get tighter.
• Stuck in entanglement: You know full well a relationship is hurting you, yet the bond is so strong you cannot walk away, and the breaking up and reuniting drags on.
• Sparring with money or coldness: When hurt, you do not say so. You use money, silence, or distance to get the upper hand, which makes the problem harder to untie.

Advice for Venus Square Pluto

When insecurity rises, first work out whether it comes from what is in front of you or from past experience. Write down the facts of the moment, such as what your partner really did today, and then write down what you are worried about. The two are often far apart. When you want to look at their phone or track where they are, say what you are afraid of in its place. If certain feelings keep coming back and you cannot sort them out alone, talking with someone trustworthy and neutral is a very practical step.

What to keep in mind when reading this aspect

1. The tighter the orb, the more it matters. In our calculations, only 13.6% of all major aspects are within 1° of exact, and 41.2% are within 3°. If your Venus square Pluto is tight, the traits on this page will be more noticeable; if it is close to the 7° limit, they will be much fainter.

2. Applying and separating. An aspect is applying when the two planets are moving toward the exact angle and separating once they have passed it. Tradition holds that an applying aspect is still taking shape and acts more strongly. Our chart calculator marks which one you have.

3. Watch for out-of-sign aspects. Two planets in square are usually in signs of the same modality (both cardinal, both fixed or both mutable), but an aspect is measured by actual distance. In our calculations, 13% of squares do not match the usual sign relationship (one planet late in a sign, the other early in another). The nature of the aspect is still there; it just shows up in a less typical way.

4. Most people born on the same day share this aspect. Venus and Pluto move only a little in a day. The difference lies in which houses they fall in on your chart, and that depends on your birth time; see Planets in the Houses.

5. Then look at each planet’s own placement. The signs Venus and Pluto are in decide how each one expresses itself; see Planets in the Signs. If either planet has other aspects, read them together. For a complete reading, use the In-Depth Chart Reading.

Other aspects between Venus and Pluto

Conjunction · Sextile · Square · Trine · Opposition

The square with other planets

Venus: Moon square Venus, Venus square Mars, Venus square Jupiter, Venus square Saturn, Venus square Uranus, Venus square Neptune.

Pluto: Sun square Pluto, Moon square Pluto, Mercury square Pluto, Mars square Pluto, Jupiter square Pluto, Saturn square Pluto, Uranus square Pluto.

All Venus aspects · All Pluto aspects · Planet aspects overview